How do I ask someone to have sex?

Here are some things you can ask to see if someone is keen to be sexual with you.

ASK

• “May I …?"
• “Can we …?”
• “What do you want to do?”
• “What turns you on? I like…”
• “I’d like to … would you like to? If not, what would you like to do?”
• “How do you feel about doing …?”
• “Are there things you know you don’t want to do: what are they? Mine are …”
• “Is there anything you need to feel comfortable or safe when we do …?”
• “I'm really interested in doing … with you and it feels like the right time for me, do you want to do that and does the timing feel right to you?”
• “I'd like to have sexSex
  Is different things people choose to do to actively express sexuality and sexual feelings; often this involves genitals, but not always. Other words used in place of “sex” could be “sexual activity”, “sexual experiences”, or just “sexual” – they all mean the same thing. Sex can involve one person (i.e. masturbation) or more. When we talk about sex, we are not just talking about a man putting his penis into a woman’s vagina – there are heaps of ways people can have sex.
  For sex to be fun, legal, respectful and pleasurable there must always be CONSENT.
  tonight, would you? What do you want to do or try?”

The dots (…) are there so you can put whatever type of sexual activity you want to try in the sentence.

We got this list of questions from the website Scarleteen, www.scarleteen.com. Click here to view more.

Remember - Making respectful decisions about sexSex
Is different things people choose to do to actively express sexuality and sexual feelings; often this involves genitals, but not always. Other words used in place of “sex” could be “sexual activity”, “sexual experiences”, or just “sexual” – they all mean the same thing. Sex can involve one person (i.e. masturbation) or more. When we talk about sex, we are not just talking about a man putting his penis into a woman’s vagina – there are heaps of ways people can have sex.
For sex to be fun, legal, respectful and pleasurable there must always be CONSENT.
is an on-going process. You need to keep checking in with yourself and the others you’re with to make sure that everyone is all good with what’s happening.