Fifty Shades of Grey launches BDSM into polite society!

When the book hit the shelves, it was the hottest topic for both book lovers and non-book lovers alike.  In fact, the book may even have encouraged some people to read it got so much publicity as the hottest novel around!  The launch of the movies replacing the need for the reader’s imagination and bringing to light the less than vanilla lifestyle.

2 common questions about the BDSM lifestyle

Q1       Are people who practice the BDSM lifestyle disturbed or mentally ill?

A1       If this was the 1800’s or early 1900’s the answer to that question would have been a big yes as itwas classified by Freud as “enjoyment neurotic” and he coined the phrase “sadomasochism” and was classified as “sexual sadism” which was according to him “a deviation”.  SM was still classed as a psychiatric disorder at the beginning of the 1990’s.
But then again oral sex was as taboo and perverse as homosexuality in the not too distant past as well!  Recent studies and a better understanding of BDSM the evidence points to the larger percentage of people who live the BDSM lifestyle being mentally healthy and mostly upstanding citizens who just find the vanilla lifestyle less than fulfilling!

Q2       Who partakes in such a lifestyle and what do they do?

A2       Many women and men have at sometime or the other fantasized about some form of BDSM.    People who actually partake in the practice are ordinary men and woman from all walks of life, educational backgrounds and careers
There are a few forms of BDSM from light bondage with the use of various restraints such as silk ties, handcuffs to the full-fledged BDSM that use various ropes and knots and acts.  There is always a dominant and a submissive, usually the dominant takes care of their submissive, there is a lot of mutual trust, a deep bond and a standing set of boundaries and rules each must adhere to.

Conclusion

BDSM is a way for some people to gain a deeper intimacy and a more fulfilling lifestyle.

2 common questions and or misconceptions about the psychology of the BDSM lifestyle